Are you in a situation where you have to save your marriage alone?  If your spouse seems indifferent, as though he or she doesn’t really want to work for your marriage, then you may find yourself in this position.

I know from my own personal experience that this is a discouraging and lonely place to be in a relationship. You could start to feel like throwing in the towel too.  But what if you could do one thing to turn things around and save your marriage?

But before I tell you that here’s what you must not do!  These are the three mistakes that I made. Making these mistakes definitely won’t fix your marriage, so to try to avoid:

1. Getting your partner to feel ashamed about their lack of interest in the marriage.  It will only kill any desire they might have to work on the marriage!
2. Begging and pleading are a huge turn off! You just seem as needy and pathetic, and will that strike your partner as attractive or romantic?
3. Saying “I love you” every five minutes gets irritating after an hour or two.

So what can you do to try to save your marriage alone? Focus on saying positive things about your spouse that can be supporting and helpful and just try to leave out the criticism for a while.

What this does for you: Your spouse starts to regard you as an uplifting part of their life instead of someone they believe is wearing them down.  If their position on the relationship shifts then they’re going to feel more of an investment in making things working out between the two of you.  This is just what happened in my relationship.

This is a deceptively simple strategy that can work like magic – but try to prevent yourself from complicating it!