If you’ve reached the point where you are wondering “Who can help me save my marriage?” The first questions you must answer are: Do you remember why you got married in the first place?  And what made you feel so passionate about your partner?

Do you recall what it felt like to be in love, to long to be with your spouse whenever you were apart, to be thrilled when they answered the phone, to delightfully plan and scheme for the future together, your future?

Every day couples are faced with either small or momentous choices about their lives together.  How you respond to these choices will have a huge impact on whether your love and your marriage survive and become more resilient, or whether it will stagnate and die.

The surprising and good news is that despite all the horrid and depressing reports about the divorce rate in this country, marriages can rebound rather quickly even when you and your spouse seem a world apart in your feelings.  As a therapist I’ve been repeatedly surprised in a good way by relationships that turned around just when things seemed most hopeless.  The only thing is… it won’t happen unless you take some initiative and responsibility for creating change.  And the place to start change in a marriage is with yourself.

I’ve  compiled the following articles to provide you with ideas that you can begin to put into play today to save your marriage, because the one thing that is going to be most detrimental to your marriage is going along as if everything were fine as it is, or to resign yourself to hopelessness, the feeling that this is just your lot in life.   It does not have to be that way.  Taking action may feel overwhelming and risky at first but think about the alternative.  Remember: Your spouse is not your enemy!  There was love between the two of you and it’s probably still there.  Keep learning and putting into practice what you’ve learned until your marriage is the relationship the two of you dreamed it would be.